Unapologetically Southern?

by Andrea Elizabeth

Polls have changed a lot in the last 10 years. There must be a real changing of the guard. This new generation is pro gay marriage, pro globalization and anti confederate. I heard on NPR the other day that students of Hood Jr. High School in Dallas have voted to change the name of the school because ‘General John B. Hood was a bad man because he killed people in the Civil War order to keep slavery in the south.’ When I was young, state’s rights were what the South fought for. Nowadays, it’s only slavery. I don’t know much about John B. Hood, but the county south of mine was named after him too. I doubt that will change because most of my neighbors down there look and sound like this “Unapologetically Southern” man:

He doesn’t mention the Civil War or slavery in his rant above about how southerners are stereotyped as being dumb. He’s gotten a lot of press for his rant, but I don’t find it convincing even though he’s nice about people of other cultures. I don’t like and do not brag about having gas-guzzling polluters, proud gun toters* (see the video) and to add, racists in the south, but I am still proud to be southern. I would apologize if I or my kids participated in those sins, as each person should apologize for their own culturally inherited and participated-in sins. Additionally, I think General Lee was a respectable man who fought for his homeland and didn’t care for slavery, or so I’ve heard. Now there’s even a movement to take down his statue in a nice part of Dallas.

I believe the evils of slavery and the Civil War were inherited generational attitudes about class and what makes a war just. A lot has changed, and much more will as my generation dies out. Folks are pretty bonded to what their grandparents believed. And my grandparents’ grandparents lived through the Civil War. I guess if your grandparent was a babyboomer (coming of age in the revolutionary 60’s), as the Millenials’ grandparents are, everything is up for grabs.

*I don’t think gun toting is a sin, but being proud of your gun as a way to intimidate people who disagree with you is.


The second “why”

by Andrea Elizabeth

In Kierkegaard’s Either/Or Part II is to have children to continue one’s family line. He is shorter on his argument this time saying that to marry for other than love is to wound and alter the woman even if she is won over. But that having a child is a separate blessing beyond all others.

The first “why”

by Andrea Elizabeth

I’m up to page 64 in Kierkegaard’s Either/Or Part II. He has just finished his argument against the first, most respectable, but not justifiable, reason given people marry: to build character. At first I had in my head an argument, ‘what about the idea of Marriage as Salvation, and the reason the Orthodox ceremony includes a martyr’s crown?’ He gives an example of a man who married an older, plainer person than himself, causing one to think “that the ‘why’ must be an eccentric one.” Playing into stereotypes much, Mr. Kierkegaard? That men are only naturally interested in pretty young women? But the man stated that one marries to build character, “to the slight edification of his [listening] wife.” I can see his point, though, that one’s preconceived notions about character building can make the spouse a guinea pig. They are there solely for the upbuilding of the other person. It reminds me of a certain Calvinist posture where others are dung that God miraculously and monergistically uses to his own, and vicariously, the Christian’s ends. There is a bad way to view martyrdom that removes oneself too much from the cause and effect.

the pleasure of your company

by Andrea Elizabeth

I’m practically finished with Aristotle for Everybody by Mortimer Adler, audible version. It’s hard to know when the author is quoting, paraphrasing, or interpreting Aristotle in a modern way. The part I find most interesting, [since I find the formal rules of formal logic irritating. I loved Geometry, so I am capable of using them, but that was then and I am in the practical time of life where applications can include shortcuts. I also found most of the points to be lessons in the obvious.] is the part about friendship and justice. Looking it up now, it appears that this came from his Nicomachean Ethics Book 8.

“when men are friends they have no need of justice, while when they are just they need friendship as well, and the truest form of justice is thought to be a friendly quality.”

Friends are joined by mutual goodness, pleasure, and/or usefulness. There are many combinations and types discussed.

I suppose justice comes in when one or more of these things is withdrawn to a certain degree or maybe was over-estimated. This is why there are civil courts. He also doesn’t seem to get into loving one’s enemies.

how to communicate life

by Andrea Elizabeth

Music, however, is living presence. This is why lullabies work on illiterate babies. This is why the Divine Liturgy is chanted and sung. Music is movement. And why Sia’s stillness is so conspicuous when she sings. It’s contradictory.

And why you have to be careful what music you listen to.

The castle of aaaaaaaah

by Andrea Elizabeth

I replied to a Facebook comment that talking is overrated. Talking is mostly good for catharsis. It is a funeral to gain closure for something that has died. A eulogy. Take for example the law of Moses. This was necessary because man had fallen so far that they had no conscience. Except for a couple of guys. These guys naturally did right without being told. They had to instruct people, so their words were because of dead consciences, not living ones. 

Story-telling is similar. Something bad happened and it needed to be told to gain closure and maybe instruct ignorant people. Charles Dickens and Dostoyevsky had terrible pasts. 

But what about love and beauty? These words are also testaments of winter. If there were not scarcity of experience, we would not need to be reminded. If there were abundance, we would still need no reminder and probably would not appreciate one.

So words are eulogies said when something has passed.

Hugh Glass’ story

by Andrea Elizabeth

 That The Revenant is based on is well recounted here. “This article was written by Nancy M. Peterson and originally appeared in the June 2000 issue of Wild West.”

four unspoiling takeaways from The Revenant

by Andrea Elizabeth

The setting was an interesting juxtaposition of beautiful and uncomfortable immersive primitive nature. Just what I was looking for.

DiCaprio and Hardy, who was again unrecognizable as Bane or himself, should get Oscars.

It agreed with my long-held belief that, barring the demolition of heart, airway or brain, you can keep willing yourself to breathe one more breath. I’ve heard of terminally ill people having to be coached to give up the ghost.

It proposes that the paternal bond can be as strong as the maternal one. Interesting.



if this is feminism, I’m not in

by Andrea Elizabeth

*contains spoilers*

On the plane home last night they played The Intern. I did not purchase the headphones, so I just watched the body language and filled in the gaps with the plot on wikipedia. So they pick the most sympathetic actress to play a successful entrepreneur, a dumpy guy to play her husband who gave up his career to watch the kids, and a cool, prestigious old guy to play her fairy god-father intern. Her whole problem is that she’s got the success, but has lost touch with her family, and her husband had an affair, and so she is unhappy. DeNiro, and conveniently, her husband, convince her to keep control of the company so as to be fulfilled creatively. She decides to forgive her husband and deal with her losses with tai chi.

The worst thing was how everyone’s attention is only on Anne Hathaway. The writer must be a narcissist who thinks everything revolves around her. This is very obvious with the body language, even though Anne is interested in other people. She has to give them permission to have other interests. She is in control that way. This reminds me of the end of Gladiator when Maximus is dying and the queen, who is in love with him, gives him permission to go to his wife. But maybe this is the way of alpha people. They have so much gravity that they do have to give others permission not to be totally sucked into it.

The second is how DeNiro is self-serving in his servileness. He is too focused on her and her problems. She even texts someone early on that he is “too observant”. He systematically removes her defenses and wins her trust to make her a devoted follower converted to tai chi with him as the master. Mutual, platonic narcissism. They both want all the power and I do believe feminists want it to be a partnership whereas men seem more to want to be the only one. Sports couples surprise me where there is a male coach and a female star athlete. There apparently is a component of maleness to want to be the creator of a star woman. Like Phantom of the Opera. Like the doctor in another movie based on a true story of a female sex-addict narcissist over-comer who became her speaking engagement cheerleader. Maybe some dads are also like that.

A more positive review is here, called, “De Niro and Hathaway’s chemistry is a sheer delight, but Nancy Meyers’ distracted screenplay in the second hour undercuts an otherwise genuinely entertaining start”

But what about the feminists’ idea of self-actualization? Is it just my individual goal to be fulfilled as a mother first? Or is it innate? Women do have other potentials, but I think they are best gone after in early adult-hood and then sprinkle one’s life after having children like dessert. When there has to be a decision I have gone for maximalized motherhood, not that I’ve achieved it or been completely faithful to it.

Back to dads, if a daughter is not nurtured early on, or feels a lack of support from her parents, who are the ones to revolve around children, then she will probably look for it from other people later in life. I think she will be disappointed though in some ways forever, and will have to find a positive, healthy way to relax.

Are we caught in the middle?

by Andrea Elizabeth

While I’m still traveling and posting from my phone, I’ll share this article comparing baby boomers, my generation X, and millennials. 


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