The 1/2 empty or 1/2 full glass

by Andrea Elizabeth

Take this famous pessimist/optimist test. There’s a lot of pressure and guilt to be a half full person. Just be thankful there’s water! I asked my daughter one time why Millennial songs are so pessimistic but with an upbeat tempo? She said Millennials are realists, but if you act sad or depressed you’re labeled as messed up and that something is wrong with you.

I want to know why the glass isn’t filled up, because a glass is made a certain size to hold a certain amount of water with a little room at the top to prevent spillage. Additionally, Christians are promised an overflowing amount of water. Appreciating the half full and ignoring the half empty is artificially hyping yourself up to unrealistically experience fullness when there is actually half-fullness. Yes a very thirsty person will be very glad to find a half full glass of water, but he will also want the other half.

If you ask a waiter to refill your water and he only fills it up half-way, you’ll naturally experience rancor and wonder if he’s playing some sort of twisted joke. You ask him why and he says, “well you’ve finished your meal, so I didn’t think you needed more than that and didn’t want to waste.” He’s obviously overstepped his bounds by not minding his own business but yours. His business is to fill, not half fill, water glasses, and not to nosily analyze how much he can leave unfilled.

Or if you filled your water glass, leave the room, and come back to find it half-filled, I don’t think appreciation should be mandated. It’s time to call Miss Marple or Ghost-busters, not the Hallelujah Squad.

Or if right in front of you the cat comes up and knocks your full glass over and you catch it so that only half spills, are we really supposed to praise the situation? If it was an exceptionally good catch and the likelihood of evaporation just reached capacity and not the likelihood of mold or an embarrassing stain, then a certain amount of relief is to be experienced. Otherwise, it’s like telling a hurting person things could be worse. Yes, context is used to gauge and control a grief response, but grief should be given its proper due! It’s ok to cry. Just not over spilt milk.

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