a new way to be

by Andrea Elizabeth

I found the article: Raised by Parents with Low Emotional Intelligence.

Critique: The title is a little condescending and probably does fit too much in the blame your parents’ category. Nevertheless the person did feel unseen, unvalued, unloved, and unnurtured. Does the author want too much from the parents though? Was the child hypersensitive? Too self-pitying? Maybe, maybe not. I like the more positive thought training towards the end that does sound like, forgive them, they know not what they do. And I like that it says, it’s not all because you are lazy and weak.

Wanting different parents, though. That does sound like the child needs to learn to be thankful for what they have as well as work on ways not to believe sensitive people should be blamed for being weak and lazy. And I wish there was a more nuanced understanding of the parents. Their generation was more stoic and did not talk about feelings nor feel sorry for themselves. We now live in such an eggshell world, but at the same time I don’t think stoicism should be the only answer. A couple of generations before them produced some pretty subtle, nuanced, delicate art. How to be strong and sensitive…