push me pull me

by Andrea Elizabeth

Page 402 in Either/Or and Kierkegaard is reminding me of The Taming of the Shrew, except Cordelia isn’t a shrew, or isn’t considered one, and Johannes doesn’t have marriage as his endgame. In both stories the capable man is engineering improvement in the object of his desire through pain. In this case, the pain of withdrawal. Intended or not, my reaction is to classify a guy who treats people thus as a jerk. As in someone who jerks people on a chain. Come here, go away, come here, go away. The withdrawal cuts deep, and the justification is that it is good for a person to be deepened. Maybe so, but some people can’t tolerate it. Or wont.