through the looking glass

by Andrea Elizabeth

The Wikipedia article on the history of abortion in the U.S. is pretty enlightening. By 1900, all states had legislation against abortion, but in the ’30’s 800,000 abortions were done by licensed physicians. The article does not correlate this with the Great Depression, but I would. It also gives the reasons women get abortions. When I read these reasons I have the following thoughts.

1. It doesn’t seem women throughout history have a Christian view of self-actualization regarding motherhood. Delaying or preventing motherhood to me is delaying or preventing salvation, as 1 Timothy 2:15 says women will be saved through childbearing. These women obviously think it will ruin their life instead.

2. How isolated they feel in the decision.

3. How disconnected their thoughts of sex are with procreation.

4. I wonder how connected women’s “autonomy” in deciding to go through with a pregnancy is to her autonomy in having sex. I would like a statistic in how pressured the woman felt to have sex, which tables may have turned in recent generations, and which isn’t revealed in the 1% rape statistic. Either pressure by the man or by her peers or to prove something to herself. Or was it just enjoyment? The article does at least mention relationship difficulties, “14.1% Has relationship problem or partner does not want pregnancy.”

The sad fact is that there seems to be a big problem with people not wanting children  in general nowadays. Not even the ones they have. My daughter and I yesterday watched the latest three episodes of “Once Upon A Time in Wonderland” on abc.com where Alice’s and Jafar’s relationships with their fathers was explored. Both felt very unwanted and unvalued by their fathers.

I think women still view sex in relationship terms, even if they are more aggressive than they used to be. They want to feel connected to their partner, but not necessarily to their children. If she is trying to make up for a perceived lack from her father, sounds Freudian, but which can point to why there is a disconnect from procreation motivations, then it is her unfulfilled child, and not her grown up position as co-head of a new family, that is approaching sex. The latest episode in “Once Upon A Time in Wonderland” has I think a very insightful answer as to what Alice needed from her father and what was holding her back.

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